missus biG & mister small: finally, an oreo for me!

meet my wife.

hello brides,

i am mister small and i am not a wedding coordinator. but my wife is. and quite a very detailed one at that. now of course, this may seem biased knowing full well that the outcome of what i write here determines whether i'll be sleeping on the bed or on the floor.

regardless of that, the task of writing this introduction falls upon me because my wife could not find the words to properly describe herself. so i am doing it for her.

she is missus biG, but i call her polly. if you already know her, you’ll immediately agree that she is one of the most obsessive compulsive people you’ll ever come across. when she planned every minute detail of our own wedding, i was given a gazillion options for the tiniest of things, including the way the table napkins were to be folded and what the waiters would be wearing.

but despite being a stickler for order and procedure, our wedding was anything but calculated. it was personal. we did everything differently, from our choice of wedding readings to an unconventional first dance. as she has told me many times in the past, our wedding was an incredibly personal journey. it should be one for you too.

if you do decide to get her as your wedding coordinator, know that she is more than just someone who will make you choose color schemes or choir music. she is more than someone who will email you all sorts of unusual wedding readings. she is more than just someone who will fix your wedding dress right before they open the church doors and your groom sees you for the first time.

she is missus biG, the person who will stand by you in your last few moments as a single girl. i married her because i knew, i wouldn’t want anyone else there for me in the end.

Thursday, September 10, 2009

finally, an oreo for me!

it was always my dream to have a black and white wedding. when Marc proposed, i knew instantly that this was what i was going to plan for. with a color scheme like that, things would just be inherently elegant in its simplicity.

i could go all out vintage with it.

(i am loving the chairs, the wall mouldings, polka dot boxes and that simply refreshing plant centerpiece -- they pulled this off without any flowers whatsoever!)

or give a modern look a romantic twist.

i particularly adore black, white and green combinations.

so as you can see, black and white in itself, is a theme that's already made, while still giving you room to play around and create something different each time.

but alas, my new Chinese family-to-be were just not keen on the black & white idea. nor was Marc, in spite of how non-traditional and westernized he already is. i guess some superstitions are just deeply ingrained in him -- "black is death, it's bad luck, why tempt the fates?" it didn't help my cause either that the Chinese wear all white to wakes and funerals. there was no way i was going to win this battle.

but i was going to marry Marc no matter what, so i was all too willing to compromise. Wine in Winter became the theme of my wedding. instead of black, i settled for the deepest shade of plum/wine there was. it helps too that i'm colorblind -- i was eventually able to convince myself that this shade was close enough. in the end, i LOVED how my wedding turned out.

my dream of a black and white wedding still lives on. and it's fortunate that i'm finally going to be able to do it, thanks to my november couple. they're having a black and white 1920's-themed reception, following a Christian ceremony (which i'm also excited about since this will be my first Christian wedding). i guess wedding planning is my way of realizing all the wedding themes i wanted for myself!

and with that, here are a few more black and white set-ups i found when i was researching before. i hope this inspires you!